do we ever have enough time just having fun with the entire family? thankfully, yes.  sometimes it's a smooth ride and sometimes it's a roller coaster ride!

we all had a great getaway!

considering the way we left home...with the upheaval of septic, flooding, dumpsters, walls ripped out, no working oil burner, no showers, no more sense of humor.....all 4 of us were blessed to have fun from the moment we buckled our seat belts.

anyone who has kids knows that's a gift. actually, anyone who has memories of growing up knows the preciousness

of family fun and good times!

usually, the first few moments in the car are filled with everyone begging for their needs to be met....too hot, too cold, too windy, too crowded, too loud, not loud enough....whoever invented the d.v.d. player for the car didn't take into account that kids don't always agree on a movie...as important as the d.v.d. was when we purchased the car, we never thought about the prospect of action movies vs. romantic comedies....so,it's back to  ipods, radios, c.d.'s!

we do try to squeeze in some lively conversation as well!

sometimes it works! 

sometimes it doesn't!

we have cell phones for texting that need to be plugged in....we have i-touches for tunes....with earphones or earbuds...volume....a girl who loves to belt out her absolute favorites....no matter who else is in earshot! 

thankfully,grace has a beautiful voice. although, this week she let us know that she would never try out for a solo because t.j. doesn't think she has a good voice!  why on earth would she heed to a brother's comment at that moment in time?

so we sing, we dance, we laugh, we play....not that perfect, but our time together was great!  considering we weren't off on a glamorous trip, the energy of the kids was just as if we were!  i do love their spirit!

we had planned to leave on friday night after biff arrived home from work.....only we didn't plan on emotions building to a crescendo....just as grace does while singing in the car....much to t.j.'s dismay and horror and frustration and anger and dislike!

to put it mildly.

needless to say, the flooding drama  had whirled and swirled through my mind for 2 whole weeks.  2 weeks!  i had a sense of humor for most of it.  most, not all. and then.....i didn't.

friday, the big day...vacation finally arrived....and we had high hopes...to get our plans underway...get in the car...one big happy family....and then, no.  it just wasn't possible. it could not happen.  how could we leave?  how could we leave the dogs?  how could we have someone take care of them?  how could we?

i called kit up near boston.  she listened.  i began my list of objections...i began my latest horror of the week....i began to cry and cry and cry....i told her i couldn't leave daisy and fitzy. i asked if they could come....and then i realized that was pretty outrageous.  then, i didn't think i could bear leaving the sweet dogs who kept me laughing for the last 2 weeks.  how could i make them stay home with the chaos.

then, i realized.....the dogs will most likely enjoy the quiet.  they've been rocked and rolled for 2 weeks too!  they haven't even had hot water mixed in their food....never mind a shower. i thought....while weeping on the phone with kit....i guess we could leave them. maybe they deserve a break from it all.

and that's what got us on our way.

that, and the fact that we were able to contact our 2 dogsitters who were happy to spend the week with daisy and fitzy! our lives had come to this.  it was up to our dog sitters whether or not we could leave town.  our lives had gone to the dogs....quite literally!

i hate when that happens.

so, finally...after talking/crying/ blubbering with/to kim, we left it that i would let her know our plans.  it was 9 p.m. and we still had to decide on our timing......and then, biff and i finally got it.  we realized we just had to wait til morning. we would leave early...very early....very, very early.  we would do it right. we would get sleep....which is what i need right now!

we did get our sleep.

we did leave very early.

we only lost one early.

for us, that's pretty good.

no.

for us, that's very good.

no.

for us, that's very, very good!

yay!

we did it!

we got in the car.

we got in the car with our bicycles, our bags, our technological devices, our coffee, our pillows, our books.....

our family!

and we were off to boston. off to boston to see our wonderful friends.  off to boston to be with friends for the whole family....friends like family.

that's another gift in our lives!

who else could stand us? only our friends can handle our ups and downs and decision making skills or lack thereof!

thankfully. they all understand us.  somehow.

?

 

today was another beautiful spring day! biff and i left t.j. and grace sleeping this morning while we drove off for some coffee and a little visit with an old friend.  she is a wonderful woman of my mom's generation, a dignified and conservative yankee.  she's a strong woman with a heart of gold.  she's 83 now and still working almost everyday at the business that she and her husband bought years ago.  her husband has been gone for many years.  this woman has never let anything get in her way...she just keeps on going.  she's a great role model for women...even for the latest young women in the work force.  mrs. thayer was ahead of her time.  it's still a family business and mrs. thayer has one of her sons working there too.  the business was a passion of her husband's and has remained a passion for the whole family!   

we lived up here near boston for almost 5 years. from the moment mrs. thayer met biff and i and our kids, she was a wonderful person in our lives.  we met at the time we moved in...her son is biff's boss....she brought up her 5 kids on the south shore of boston.  biff and i knew that we wanted to live in the area. once we settled in, we went up to meet mrs. thayer at the rink!! did we feel a connection?? immediately! 

after all, biff and i were together because of ice skating! the rink was mrs. thayer's business.  when we got together for the first time she encouraged us,"if grace can walk, she can skate!! within weeks, grace was geared up and we put her on the ice!  she

was almost 18 months! 

that's when we felt it was meant to be!  we were in the right place.  every tuesday and thursday morning, i got her dressed to go and we drove up to the rink and dressed her up in her snow suit, mittens, helmet and single blade skates...and a neck guard!

http://www.skatepilgrim.com/

i thought that i would be skating with her! not! she went on the ice all by herself.  she had a chair to push and she was off....mrs. thayer's son, a hockey coach at the rink, was out there on the ice.  when i wanted to run out to the middle of the ice to save my baby, the coach would look over at me and signal "wait...."

i wanted to pole vault over the boards and help grace up...i didn't want her to be scared!

little did i know, she knew no different!  she would fall down, get frustrated....slip and slide around....then get herself up and she was proud!  very proud!

a gift for us all. mrs; thayer was wonderful to us all.  to grace and t.j., she was like another grandma....just local!

so, today we stopped in and spent some time just telling her about the kids and hearing all about her big family...her kids and her grandchildren. we left t.j. and grace sleeping....we were so sorry that they hadn't been with us.  we'd like to bring them back tomorrow.

once we got back to the kids at kit's house, we had something to eat...waited for kit's kids to get home from school...laughed at our kids getting involved with kit's kids' homework!  their vacation, they were involved in homework!!  they resist their own homework!  we may have to move back just for that homework enthusiasm!

after kit's kids went off to sports practices, we all went off to the beach...same beach we all used to go to...during all seasons!  we walked, talked and looked for sea glass. a fabulous family time...quiet and peaceful and like another walk down memory lane.

we sure have had a lot of that lately!  we had considered boston...and decided to enjoy taking it slow...we wanted to enjoy where we were...we didn't need to hunt around...here was just right!

the beach is always a good place for us as a family!!

always. always. we certainly have good times at the beach....it's pretty tough for any one of us to have anything other than a good day at the beach!

it's not the beach in florida we were hoping to get away to this year....it was a tad cooler than florida....but it still is just what we needed.  a little getaway...another beach and some time together!

life is good....always!!

we all found lots of sea glass!  grace found a bonus blue piece...one of the most rare!  we all found some and we all left tired after walking for miles down the long stretch of south shore beach.

life is good.

could it be any better? spring has sprung! boston is beautiful! easy to love in the spring...the longer winter is "wicked"! 

to be back up here is wonderful....seeing our old town with the kids has been so much fun...grace and t.j. have enjoyed checking out all of their old spots...remembering where ballet class was when grace was 3, the pool where they learned to swim, our church, the beach .....and all of the territory we covered with the jog stroller...miles and miles!

it's been really remarkable to see the kids appreciation for all of people and places they remember.  they show so much maturity!  they really are growing up in attitude and demeanor.  o.k. let's remember we're away from home, there's no homework...no friend drama...no responsibilities. we're very aware that every day is different....so we're enjoying today!  every minute!

easy to love with this beautiful weather...just like kids are easy to love when they're charming, easy going and agreeable! 

random thought...daffodils always remind me of cancer and raising awareness for cancer....i have a random memory of walking  babies in the hot pink double jog stroller....seeing people selling bunches of daffodils for cancer in front of the post office!  i never see a daffodil without thinking about cancer survivors!

easy to love! biff and i use the expression "easy to love" when we're driving by a beach house on the water....beautiful beach days....quality anything!

it's been great just to step away from our chaos....yesterday was a "touristy" day....today was great to be back home...where we lived with little babies....where we started our lives as a new family!

it was our home. it will always be our special place. this is where we learned to be a mom and dad. this is where we grew our own family...in our own new place.

this was where we learned together as a new family meeting new friends, this is where we explored together, this is where we had to worked and saved towards our first home....this is the place who taught us lots of life lessons that helped us to be who we hoped to be.  we learned together that family came first, family with faith and trust in each other, we learned how to deal with the little challenges, new challenges and new attitudes towards old challenges. lots of the life here got us exactly where we needed to be.  the right place for us, as a family.

home was here. home is in connecticut now. it's easy to love another place as home.  it's easy to live in someone else's place with no drama, no responsibilities, no demands. it's easy to visit and see the other side.

but,home is where the flooding is...home is where the dogs are....home is where grace has some scattered clothes on the floor...home is our own place to be....even knowing our problems with water and septic.

driving our "cah" around town while reminiscing and telling stories, i know we live in the best place for us. grace and t.j. sometimes say,"it would be great to move back to boston...beautiful, "easy to love", near boston....

yet, i do believe biff and i made the right decision to move to connecticut. that's really nice to know...10 years later...and living the real lives of our friends and their weekend schedule games and down time...real life because we weren't off to any special events....we were doing the lives of grace and t.j. in an alternate world! "easy to love"...

"easy to love" is what i said today while walking to the car after watching one of the boys' soccer games....grace was saying how fun it would be to move back...to live in the pretty new england town...that's not so far off from our little connecticut town.  it's true...it would be fun to move back... it's beautiful, it's spring, it's got a lot of what we love in a town...friends, schools with a great education, educated people, history and beaches. "easy to love."

that's pretty much the same expression for any little getaway we take for a break...."easy to love."

it's good to get away for a new perspective.

vacation....spring break for our kids.  grace and t.j. are out of school for the next week! oh, how we love to have our vacations...a break from our routines!  certainly, the last 2 weeks have been anything but routine! 

so, we're off to boston! we'll have a nice getaway and that's just what we need...time away!  lots of time away....except wait! we have left daisy and fitzy at home! we'd have to be at some far away tropical island for us to leave daisy and fitzgerald home for too long....that's no fun!

we all got up early this morning and jumped in the car after much hustling and bustling to get the car ready to roll! i'm so delighted that we didn't leave last night....it got too late and staying home allowed us to have a better nights sleep!  we have all been in need of slumber....we've been rather upside down.

we arrived at kit and grady's  house by about 10a.m. grace and t.j. were highly motivated to get back to the town where they learned to walk, talk and ramp up their highly social beings!  we all love to go back to visit. grace and t.j. jumped out of the car and ran into the house. vacation had officially begun! always delighted to reunite, the kids were ready to start the fun.  the kids were happy to get together...they're always happy to get together. it's a comfort level like no other!  it's a mutual admiration society! that's a gift...for us all!  it's been almost 11 years since we moved to connecticut and when we get together, it's like yesterday!

the kids had soccer and crew....we had plans to take showers! a treat for us! hot water and shampoo are wonderful gifts. we had our showers, dressed and headed to boston.

oh! the days we lived here with our new babies...how many days i drove our little babies into boston..."pahked the cah" near the public garden,
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Public_Garden_%28Boston%29 
on charles street...to be exact.  i always got a great parking space!  we'd go into boston after breakfast and behind early commuter traffic...i'd pack the stroller into our station wagon and we'd roll and stroll through the boston common
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boston_Common, 
boston public gardens, visit the ducklings, walk up newberry street...stop in some stores, grab a bite to eat and head back to our sweet south shore town in time for naps!

it was a wonderful time in our lives...with babies, it was so easy to pop into town by car, sometimes by commuter boat.  we had the best of both worlds...a lovely place to live near the beach and quick jaunts to the city to keep me feeling invigorated by the culture,  the city life and easy access to the beautiful parks and walks along the charles river.  it kept me feeling energized...as a new young mom, far away from family and old friends. i had the parking karma and boston was an easy city with babies!
http://www.bostonusa.com/ 

biff and i were comfortable in boston...we had chosen to live near boston rather than too far removed from the city...i was afraid to be in the boonies...and as biff knew from the beginning, life would be better near the beach...we had talked about that from our beginning!

biff was in a new sales territory...i was in a new life territory...as a stay at home mom!  boston allowed me

to continue living some of my life before baby!  cities energize me.  i've had some great city living...and i don't need to do that again...but...WOW...i love so much of the culture and diversity that our cities have to offer!

i loved those days!  today we told the kids stories of our trips to boston for church, shopping, the head of the charles, mass. general hospital doctor's visits...when we were expecting t.j. and the same hospital when t.j. broke his arm at 17 months. what happened?  he was "cwib divin'"...t.j. attempted to climb out of his crib at 17 months...after an afternoon nap....he did his best to imitate his monkey sister, almost 3, and landed on the floor...broke his wrist! 

we had lots of boston trips then...almost weekly! we always walked from massachusetts general hospital http://www.mgh.harvard.edu/default.aspxto the public gardens to see the ducklings...and let the energetic babies run, run and run some more before getting back in the car to go home!

we had lots of detours with t.j. and grace! it seemed, whenever i was alone with them...wherever...whenever....they would both dart in different directions....laughing and singing all of the way! as an old friend said of her twins, "i feel like i can finally breathe once they're both buckled into their stroller!"  that was our life! and we had irish twins!

funny to see them today...walking together...casually...through the boston public gardens and the boston common....just talking and laughing together....and chasing after crazy squirrels like they did so many years ago....and laughing like they had never done it before!

biff and i strolled behind them...so grateful for moments like these!  so happy to see them enjoying each other....and not bickering!

we walked over to the ducklings...in the public gardens...as a tribute to robert mc closkey

http://www.amazon.com/Make-Way-Ducklings-Robert-McCloskey/dp/B0007D9VJG 


some of the prettiest prints of boston, that i never tire of are from kennedy studios.
http://www.kennedystudios.net/ 


before t.j. was born, grace used to run into the open door at kennedy studios in our little south shore town!
after t.j. arrived, the lovely woman, susan, who we knew by name...thanks to grace sent us the sweetest card, a print from kennedy studios!
we had a great day...found great parking...again! the parking karma never dies!  we parked on beacon street http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beacon_Hill,_Boston

just alongside of the public gardens and across the street from "cheers", the restaurant...the t.v. show!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WEq5M1wA4hk 

we had so much fun!  we walked through beacon hill 
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beacon_Hill,_Boston 
past the state house, along the freedom trail and over to fanueil hall to meet my older brother and our 2 niece's for lunch at the union oyster house...another landmark.
http://www.unionoysterhouse.com/ 

such a great day, great weather, time for family and time for friends...we went to meet ll of our friends for dinner at an awesome sports restaurant to see the boston college vs. wisconsin hockey playoffs! oh, the fun we had!  

http://www.bc.edu/  almost everyone we knew up in our little town near boston seemed to have graduated from boston college!  grace and t.j. are all set to go there too!  they certainly have the school spirit!

grace and t.j. still laughing together after a long day with family and friends!  go b.c.!

it was the legos!
http://www.lego.com/en-US/default.aspx 

definitely the legos!

legos in the dumpster put me over the edge....we've had a lot going on lately.  just lots of stuff.  not big stuff. just a slow and steady build up of stuff...not to bore you, but it seems that i have a sense of humor about everything that comes our way.  it's been a lifetime of little stuff and big stuff that seems to do it!  the big stuff isn't always the issue!

the big stuff that comes along throughout life is big...and that's that!  we live our whole life with bursts of big stuff...even big, big stuff and great big stuff!

that's the stuff we're not prepared for...but when it comes, we have to deal with it!  that's when i kick in to high coping gear.  really, i shine sometimes when the going gets really tough.  when the stuff is so big that everything in life stops....just so we can handle the greatness of whatever it is that makes our world stop.

my world seems to do just fine with some of the everyday stuff that might send others over the edge.  we all know the people who have road rage or can't bear to have a rainy day on vacation....some get angry with salespeople or telemarketers or the waitress or the line at the bank or the deliveryman or the postal worker.....or.....anyone who gets in their way on a random day.

not me.  i can deal with the little things.  i can deal with lots of little things. usually, when i come across  someone crabby during the day i try to be nice...maybe they're having  bad day.  maybe they just need one person to be nice to them....most people can use a little kindness during the course of the day.

it seems that the legos made the difference...the legos were my tipping point. "the tipping point", a book by malcolm gladwell

http://www.amazon.com/dp/0316346624/?tag=googhydr-20&hvadid=3241388601&ref=pd_sl_9577o7js46_e
my tipping point was the little red bin of legos in the dumpster as we pulled up the driveway. someone else may have lost it at the first sign of rain, the wet dogs, the bad hair day, a few inches of water in their basement.....not me. 
some may have lost it when the water in the basement rose high enough to warrant tall mud boots.  some might have lost when the new hot water heater was covered with septic and flood waters causing it to
stop working.  not so much a problem until we found that we could no longer have a hot shower.  no problem.  i'm great at adapting...at lots of little things...lots of them piled up on top of each other...more and more and more and more and then....i reach my tipping point.  mine was the legos!  but you already know that.  you have read more about our septic and flooding than anyone can stand....yet, you're still reading. 

come on already! you must be done! fed up! ka-put! enough! that's that! no more!  nada! zip!  stop with the stories of self pity....stop with the pity party....get over it already! let it go! it's history...enough is enough! 

so why do you read this?  why? i think it's cause you haven't reached your tipping point!


today, i woke up on this rainy day...the kids' last day of school before spring vacation....the house upside down...e-bay biz 
http://stores.ebay.com/littlemarymixup?_rdc=1 
to do...merchandise to mail...no dog food, so i adapted and fed the dogs leftover pork chops and noodles and peas....and water.....the dogs adapted! they didn't seem to mind that they didn't get their beneful dog food!
http://www.beneful.com/Default.aspx?DCMP=KNC-BEN-Goog-2010-BE&HBX_PK=beneful+dog+food&HBX_OU=50 
it was when a friend called to see when we would be leaving to visit them near boston 
http://www.bostonusa.com/ 
this weekend. we talked about the possibilties...going to cape cod
http://www.capecodchamber.org/
...the cape, one of our favorite places in the world....

going, here going there... that's what did it!  the friend, the welcome, the plans, the fun and then i mention the legos. 


my good friend whined,"no! not the legos....oh i'm so sad!  those legos have always been there....you've all had so much fun with legos. how can you ever replace them?  it's not like you just built them as  kit....they were creations...they were biff, grace and t.j.'s creations. oh, i feel your pain!" .......i held it together.....and then, she said it! that was that....it was my tipping point ....after all that we've been through in the last month or weeks or year or who even cares?  it was the finale'....when my friend kit said these three words, "i could cry!"


i cried.....i cried and cried.....and cried some more....until i couldn't speak...kit was upset too....i had to hang up the phone....i had to cry all by myself. 


we talked later.  we tried to make our plans.  we talked about timing. we talked about the kids and all of their plans...and then, i thought of daisy and fitzy.  how could we leave them?  i wanted to bring them. i realized i had to leave them....and i cried some more.

tears and more tears.  biff is exhausted after an intense week of work...at work, not home....it was good for business...all good stuff.  he was wiped out. lots of stress for us all.
the kids are so happy to go see their friends.  they actually wanted to go to school with their good old friends next week.  what friends they are.  i can't imagine considering going to school on vacation!! now that's a fun filled friendship!  all of the kids were thrilled....until they were denied.  not unless we go through the town and then, they'd have to go "shadow" an "ambassador" appointed by the school! when did all of this red tape happen in life?


 i have reached my tipping point.  last night, grace and t.j. reached theirs....tonight, it was biff!
we have all had to deal with the disappointment of loss...simple loss...we've lost some of our favorite people who we loved greatly...bigger than greatly....we have had many different types of loss...a few years of economic slowdown has kept us close to home for spring break...when we have attempted to plan....but, we have decided to hold back. not big. not a really big deal. really, how ridiculous! we live lives of great abundance. great love. great family. great friendships. who could ask for more?  
yet, last night...the great big spring break box did it!  the coppertone
http://www.coppertone.com/coppertone/index.jsp 
did it! great friends with great enthusiasm...kids like cousins and thoughts of fun with friends in the sun....dreams of other great vacations....and *POOF* the tipping point! we all needed to have that moment! and now, we're back!


as my t-shirt says, "life is good"
http://www.lifeisgood.com/?gclid=CIff15qs-6ACFciA5QodM3NOxA 

love these mother's day "life is good" t-shirts!
http://www.lifeisgood.com/category/search-by-interest/mothers-day.aspx

i am praying for some kind of peace.  this has been one crazy thing after another.  i've been staying very calm, cool and collected but i think i might snap soon!!  calgon, take me away!!!


i cried today...too much stuff in the dumpster....stuff! plans for vacation in the dumpster...never really got to make plans with the economy scaring us!  i was feeling a delayed reaction today after visiting home and all of the memories of family and mom! i realized it's almost 2 years since mom died!! everywhere i went today, i saw daisies!!  was that a sign from mom?  was she telling me that everything would be o.k.?
i walked at the beach with jane and her dog.  jane and her family are leaving for vacation...florida and lots of exciting family plans.
we need that together time as  family.  the beach is our greatest joy. we keep planning to make it happen....and then the reality of recession scares us into reality and pragmatic thinking! i hate when that happens.but, i'm tired and sad! so, of course it seems like that would save us from everything hitting the fan lately!  i've had a sense of humor until today!  i think it was the legos that did me in....just loss.  loss gets me everytime...whether mom or legos or plans...loss is huge!  not to say that legos and mom are equal....but the life that the legos represent is loss in a kind of funny way..
it will all be funny again....especially when we have  liveable house again!


thanks to mb for the "spring break box"!  that was some fun!  yes, it was a great idea to send us florida in a box....the thought was awesome....everyone loved all of the surprises in the box!  i think it's fun that we have christmas later in the year...you all got valentines day christmas and we got spring break!
biff loved the tacky alligator t-shirt!
and the cheezy beach book! robert balducci? or is that the dean and deluca of n.y.city? fun.
t.j. loved his gators hat and gators t-shirt!
grace loved her lilly pulitzer shirt and she has claimed my life is good shirt! she's wearing it to lacrosse tomorrow! 
we loved the lights for the deck!
we loved the ceramic whale for dip!
we all loved the new frisbee!
we all loved the tacky florida beach bag...that's crrying grace's lacrosse stuff to practice!
the beach ball is awesome!  grace almost blacked out blowing it up!
we loved the flip flops!
the fluffy new towels for t.j. and grace are awesome!
my lilly pulitzer hot pink shirt is a fave!  you got my color!
the coppertone smells like we're at the beach!
the shells were voted best of everything!

what fun for all of us!
the whole big box of florida...just wonderful!
spring break in a box! 
it was all great until.....it wasn't!! we all had so much fun opening the gifties!
we laughed and thought of you guys...our good ol' friends in florida! 
kid cousins!  college cousins! 
we were loving it...biff and i were laughing about his tacky t-shirt! then....as usual with kids.....everything changed in moments...it was like a delay....we were all feelin' the love...we were all lovin' life and the box and the fun and then................
it changed.......and just like your teenage daughter thought...."what if it makes them feel bad that they're not gonna be in florida for vacation?  what if it makes them feel bad instead of good?"
as only another teenager could imagine or empathize for another.....
that's just what happened!  everyone was smiling and it was the coppertone and the shells that did it!
i said to grace,"aren't those shells gorgeous...wait til you see when we go to sanibel someday!"  well, i guess that must have rubbed in that last straw that counted our chickens and put our eggs on the bridge before we crossed it and stepped on a crack and crossed our fingers and that was that!  
our beach in a box ended! just like that!  i think it was the plain old fashioned beachy coppertone smell that grace squeezed out or the fabulous sarasota seashells! perhaps it was my enthusiasm for sanibel and florida and sun in the fun... oops! i mean, fun in the sun!
where we won't be over vacation! 


anyone reading this must think that we sound like monster ungrateful beasts!  we are all very grateful everyday!  we've just been through a few challenging years....we keep thinking...o.k. this year we'll get a little getaway time during spring break....then we look at life and realize we prefer to live without being in debt. 
we are so blessed with sailing summers away with great friends and winter ski getaways with cozy friends!
we know we're blessed and our troubles have been sad but few....
we are grateful for the people in our lives!  we re grateful for the friends and family who re their to support us!  we are grateful to the friends and family who are not with us here on earth but live with us by our side everyday....in memories and messages they send as reminders...we miss them everyday!  we are grateful for the lives we share that are full and passionate and filled with appreciation....even through the challenges....like septic/flood combo platter!  

we are thankful and grateful....and tired and in need of some spirit lifting...we just need a little change...change or maybe just a day away from the"stinkin" dumpster !

it's all o.k.  we love our kids! we love the life we share together!  we love the laughs we share...although this week we're not laughing as much!  we're tired and all of us are in need of showers!  hot showers! a clean house. we're grateful that biff loves his work!  
all of this is to remind me that "life is good!"  i even have my e-bay biz!  yet, this week has been a challenge to get any work done.... so i do thank you for letting me ramble....i know you must be judging me...surely!  i'm judging myself....i sound so ungrateful...and i'm not...but, wow!
i am very tired.  very tired.  right now, it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. i have to do what i say...when my friends have challenges, i'm the first to say,"you can do it!  trust in God!" i know this is true. God takes care of us....we have our work to do at our end!  we have lots of great people in our lives that help us get through these exhausting moments, days, weeks!  big deal...we will laugh at these itty bitty challenges

 .....we will be o.k. septic is nothing compared to health....flooding is nothing compared to health....health and faith make a big difference in our lives...so do the special people in our lives! thank you for letting me ramble and ramble and ramble!  
oh! you say "you ramble all of the time! what's so different this time?"  this littlemarymixup has been more random than ever...you can just pass this one by...i have to do this every once in a while...i need to be grateful and thankful out loud!  really loud!  when i'm not grateful, life is never as great!  i need that spirit. i live better when i'm grateful!  at the end of the day, i go to sleep with the guy i love...we always find something to laugh about!  usually, it's us. we need that...that keeps us honest!  we tell each other when we're frustrated, mad, sad, thrilled, crazy, hysterical, deep in septic %&*@!  and the boots don't do it all!  the boots in the ##@%$$^#&*^@$#$!
there is always a lot of @#^*$^@$#%!$##%&*$ in life!

this is life!  and that's o.k. grateful grateful grateful thankful giving giving thanks for everything changes everything!! now that i've listened to myself, i think i feel better!  thanks for listening.....and thanks m.b. for all of the drama we got with the spring break in a box!!  you know we love it!  and how hard this will make us all laugh...actually you and i already laughed about it!  no matter what, our friends always understand the kooky life we live!
did i mention that fitzy ate a bag of chocolate hershey easter eggs today?  oh and a pack of jacobs cream crackers?....and half a bag of jelly beans? and my starbucks coffee!  just what she needs! coffee!!  i'll leave you on the grateful note...i'm grateful that you're  follower of littlemarymixup...i'm grateful if you just read it....you may have given up by now! nitey nite! thank you my friends! thank you!

                  steppin in &%**(&*^%$$#!


for anyone who really knows me and my love of color!  please scroll up and see the greatest color ever on the walls in the basement!  it was the perfect sea glass color!  and now those walls are in the dumpster!! can you believe it?  even the insulation has already gotten moldy...mold!  imagine!  thank goodness it's all going out!  thanks again!

m.b. and family thank you for knowing that we love florida in a box! if we couldn't share the ridiculous with our friends, who could we share our kid crazies with!  we know we love them...they make us laugh...and they are so honest!they are telling the truth! we wish we were there!  opposite of a postcard from sunny florida!
wish we were there!kathyo! you too! we wish we were there!
i'm going to dream about "a day at the beach" reunion with our good old friends and kids!