Sunday, May 16, 2010

Devil Dogs...partners in crime.










That's Fitzy!  That's her Nose.  Nobody nose the trouble I've seen, nobody nose like Daisy! 














Daisy is eight years old now!  Fitzy has been with us since Daisy was five and a half.  Fitzy was only one year old.  How sweet! 

Sweet for who?  All  of us actually.  Daisy is loyal as the day is long.  Fitzy is hungry as the day is long.
We feed her.  We feed Daisy.  Well.

As a puppy, Daisy was well fed, like clock work...with love.  Mostly, we all gave her praise in the form of love and attention and lots of heavy petting!  Life was good for Daisy.

She herded our kittens, she met the kids at the school bus..."where are the kids?" would have her running to the bus.  She was obedient and well mannered.  The only thing that got our sweet Daisy in trouble was her enthusiasm and loyalty! 






She would get on the school bus occasionally....she was always eager to learn...it's no wonder!  As a puppy, she went to Montessori....she was there for circle time at the end of the day and she was T.J's "sharing".....she was only a a few months old....and even then her school attendance record was five star....with praises from the teacher and she got along well with the other kids.














She came everywhere with me.  She came everywhere with us as a family.  She attended the kids' baseball games and wore team shirts....(Grace made sure that she was always well accessorized!)....and hats.  She went to soccer games.  She went to Lacrosse Games throughout Connecticut.  She's been to sleepovers at friends' houses.  She's been to late night parties and barbeques.  She has been to meetings of all kinds.




Everyone knows Daisy....everyone loves her.  We can count on her and her loving ways.  She stays up late to wait for everyone to be tucked in.  She has her own special bark to let us know that one of the kitties are outside and need to come in for the night.  She stays on duty if Biff is out of town.  She checks on the kids before she sleeps by my side of the bed.   She does lots of extra duty. 









She had many trips to Long Island...to visit family.  She stayed at Gramma's while we all went to the pool...including Gramma.  She stayed with our family friends.....the family who shared their Golden Retriever, Monroe, with me and the reason I ached for my own Golden.  She kept them company while I visited my mom in the hospital.  She always accompanied me to Fairfield University to visit my niece, her cousin.  She's stayed up late studying with her cousin, Claire.....oh!  she's Grace and T.J.'s cousin too.  She's been to beaches everywhere.  She made friends with the ice cream man in town....who drives with his own loving Golden on board.  













Life is still good for Daisy.  Just different.  


















Fitzy, Fitz, Fitzgerald....we love her too.  Just as every child is different and has their own individual spirit and style, our dogs do too.  Fitzy didn't have the same start in life.  While a Golden through and through, she didn't get the same puppy time as daisy.  She lived with a family with four children...under six.  She was always crated....not the same way as Daisy who loved her safety of her crate...it was her own niche....it was her haven...it was her home.  Fitzy was locked up.  Jailed in her crate.  We don't think she was served meals....rather, she jumped for food tossed from high chairs.  We think her meals were a challenge.   


Enter Fitzgerald....to our home.  Adorable.   Sweet.  With "needs", the family told us.  She just needs more than we can offer, the third family who had her for a week told us.  The first family had 4 kids.  The second family was different.  it was a woman who ran a day care....not much time to train her....certainly a bit chaotic for her...only a puppy, with day care needs of her own.  The third family was an empty nester couple with a well mannered dog of their own....they worked all day...Fitzy needed more than they could give her.....

They came to introduce us.  A dog friend of mine had heard we were thinking of a second.  She had these folks call me.  It was August.  We were home from The Cape.  The woman said if we didn't take her she would have to call Yankee Golden Retriever Rescue to try and find her a home.












Adorable.  That face.  That soft fur.  That sweet smile.  That eager look.  That need...she had to be saved.   We were the ones.  We could make a difference!


Biff said, "But....will she be a Marley?"  No, I told him.  We can train her.  She just needs attention.  She just needs time.

True.  That's just what she needs....still.  Adorable. That face.  That soft fur.  That smile.  That eager look.  That need...............she still needs.



FOOD.  always.  anyway.  anyhow.  anyplace.  anywhere.  FOOD.  Motivation is food.  Food is motivation.  

When motivation isn't food, Fitz is motivated by love....rather, needy for love.  Lots of love.....lots and lots of love.  More love. Lots more love.  Lots and lots, more and more LOVE.



Daisy needs love ......as a reward.  Fitzy needs love.....always.....and, did I mention she has a few separation issues.  She could and would be a lap dog if we let her.  She would be in between Biff and I at night...if we even let her upstairs.....she would probably take the best pillow....and roll on the most fluffy of comforters.  This dog, Fitz, has needs.  BIG NEEDS.

I see a little bit of me in both dogs.......o.k.  probably lots and lots of me......lots and lots and lots of me.


Only I don't leave my family for food. Any food. Anywhere.  Anytime.  Anyhow.


Maybe for lipstick, but certainly not food.  T.J. tells a story.....We were walking into Kate's house for Easter....Kate is like my sister....one of my best friends of my life......since college......forever......as we walked to the door that Easter Sunday, I said, "WAIT!  Where's my lipstick?  I need my lipstick!"  Biff, Grace and T.J. all answered, "Just go in!"......apparently, in my moment of hysteria....me, without lipstick upon entry!....i did say, "NO LIPSTICK?  I would sell my children for lipstick!".........those words have been tossed back to me ever since.   O.K., maybe a lipstick, but not food.














Daisy has many stories.  Some of her stories are about running laps.....never for food. I don't even think she has ever eaten a lipstick.  She sits for a treat, sure.....but she wouldn't sit for a lipstick!


 













And then there's Fitz, the other dog I love so much...actually, we all do.....it's just different.  Always different.


 








She is always up for a good meal.

 






Biff used to do a stop, drop and roll set up....to get  stolen food away from Fitz....only it was more of a RUN, SLIDE, TACKLE, SLIDE!  oh, it was exciting all right, just a tad disruptive during dinner.  We began to question who was the crazy one....Fitzy or Biff?

Biff has come a long way since then.  So has Fitz.  Actually, Fitz isn't able to have food near her.....ever....unless it's hers.  Nevermind teaching her to "LEAVE IT!"...been there....she didn't do that.....o.k. maybe one time....or two.....just never when she is already in the process of eating....a marshmallow, a lipstick, a shrimp, cups of yogurt,a shell, a sock, a Starbucks coffee,  a Dunkin Donut's coffee, a water, an orange juice, butter, a bag of fresh bagels or cup of coffee at home.  







 













She has taken lunch from two big guys eating at the beach....innocently sitting on the porch of the old red abandoned beach house.......they looked like they didn't know what hit them...as i grovelled, they were so stunned, they just smiled and said not to worry.  They were in shock, surely they had never seen anyone or anything the speed of Fitz on a mission.......













She has taken Biff's dinner off the table as he pivoted to get his water.

She has eaten a whole quiche from Whole Foods  while en route home from the store.
She has eaten our corn and fruit on our way home from our local farmstand.

She has had my morning coffee.













She has had our cereal.












She has eaten so many Burt's Bees Lipsticks that I began to think she was honestly using them as breath freshener.



She has run through our neighbors' house in quest of food. 



She has run to another neighbors house for the barbeque....and gone in the door to look for more....they thought it was "Cute"....so she keeps trying to go back.



She has gone to another neighbors' house and jumped in the gramma's fancy car with the grandchildren to eat up some fallen cheerios.....that neighbor didn't even like dogs....now I'm sure she's scarred for life.

She has gone to another neighbor, up the road, and had to have a ride home....since she had no leash....she left that home!

She ran off at the beach to follow the scent of some senior citizens little cocktail hour, with civilized wine and cheese and scotch and sodas and vodka and tonics and lots of chips and cheetos and.........not for long!  Even with the name Fitzgerald, apparently drinking doesn't interest her.....but the crackers and cheese and cheetos and fritos did!  All I can remember, is the $#&*)&^%&#$^&$())_&*&%^&$#@#@ that came from the distinguished looking gentleman's mouth......I cried on the way back to the car.













She began to run after our other neighbors' chickens, which caused Daisy to run towards the chickens to stop Fitzy from going after the chickens and caused the neighbors, our friends (although tested many times) to run out after their chickens and our dogs...creating a little chaos on an otherwise quiet morning.


She has gotten us  kicked out of my mom's nursing home.

And there's more.


Just Friday, I took Daisy and Fitzy to the Farmer's Market, on the town green.  I had already taken some wonderful greens to the car.  The market was wrapping up for the day, music still playing....it was winding down.  I had both dogs leashed.  Too bad for Daisy as she doesn't usually need a leash.  I had to keep Fitz from tugging.  She had lots to smell.  SNIFF.  SNIFF. tug...tug...tug....tugggggg. Finally, I sat down with them.  Fitz was draped across my legs. Daisy sat proudly at my side.  Nice.  This is how I could finally teach Fitz.....every week at the Farmer's Market...she would learn ....just by the exposure....even if a little late in her life....this could be the thing to help!


That's when the fisherman from Stonington tossed an empty clam shell across the lawn.  Fitz jumped up and ran towards the shell....Daisy followed....to check up ....or cash in on the find.......I held tight.  I had the leash.....barking Daisy.....rolling and "summersalting" along....they got to the empty clamshell.  


We had gathered a crowd!  A thank you to the fisherman was all he needed to be encouraged to toss a couple more.

Then we walked to the car...quietly.  People stopped to pet the adorable smiling dogs.  I waited at the car for T.J. to meet me......he had been  
"laxin' " with friends...he was having a little stick time with some lacrosse friends and was on his way to the car.  Friends stopped to chat.  They petted the dogs. We talked.  We petted.

The dogs and I sat quietly at the back of the car with the rear open...listening to the last of the music...people watching.  That's when T.J and his friend arrived.....hungry.  As we talked about food, Fitz jumped out of the car and began laps around the last of the market  and the folks at the end......laps and laps....running and running more laps.  T.J. was off and running after.  I ran.  Daisy ran....and finally, T.J. did the famous tackle...the family version of stop, drop and roll.  He did the run, jump, slide, tackle and slide version......and he caught our Fitz!  




The boys went to the pizza shop for dinner. The dogs and I drove home.  Maybe it would take some more time for Fitz to learn.  Surely, it was taking us time to be trained.  

 














I fed Daisy and Fitzy.  Again.


Now the pair work together.  Fitz makes a mad dash for the food.  Daisy barks to send us an alert.  While we reprimand Fitzy, Daisy scouts the area to see if there's anything that Fitz might have missed!  WAIT!  Our innocent little Daisy....well, it's hard to be the good one all of the time!
















Devil Dogs...partners in crime!

Thursday, May 13, 2010

i am technologically challenged today....i am sorry that i am just not getting this stuff...it may take a little while...thanks for understanding

post office with e-bay

the other day i took a little video while taking care of some of my e-bay mailings....this is a big deal in my life.  not the e-bay. not the packaging. not the selling.  not the customers. not the addressing.  the actual post office trip.  i've written about this before...it's all about the karma...i thought i would take you with me....just cuz.  off we go.

click the link below if you want to go with me....

http://qik.com/video/6592598

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

things that made a difference along the way!

museums - cabanas -
city - driver's license - - new york city -babies

-sail -  crayola crayons -

-ice skate - daydreams-

-sing on stage - church -
- bicycles - family -

-college - crazy bosses

-ski- new york city - -saks fifth avenue - dogs - boston -  art - ocean - magic markers -  hiking - jog strollers -  kittens - laughing -  family - 

-biff - europe -travel
-art lessons - polliwog pond - kindergarten
- friends - teachers-

- cape cod -summers -
languages - moves - singing - outward bound - broadway shows - school plays - creativity - small towns - big cities - kids - just some things -on and on and on and on and on!



Monday, May 10, 2010

what a day!  up and atom and on the go!  today was an e-bay day! work...work...work! and lots of fun. 



i survived another day at the post office.  for most, that's no accomplishment to even mention.  for me, it's a heroic act of bravery!  it takes a hero to make it to the post office with 8 packages, packed nicely, addressed, carried the hefty load to the car with the 2 golden retrievers frolicking all the way. 






one coffee from starbucks...that fitzy found to be a  mid afternoon pick me up, managed to drink without spilling a drop on my fabulous e-bay  merchandise. oh, she did spill but, what coffee she did spill, daisy managed to quickly slurp it up! 







and that's just before i left the driveway.
as i was backing down the driveway, t.j. came running after me...he was desperate for some danon gogurt...




he just had some sort of lisping device put into his mouth at the orthodontist this morning....it was imperative. it was the only thing he could eat.  he traded his whole lunch for a gogurt today...just to have something...anything....any  morsel.  

quite a bit on my plate for a woman with post office issues.  i was determined. i had lots to get in the mail.  after t.j.'s desperate plea, i hit the gas and made a break for it!





i got over the first hurdle smoothly.  there was parking right outside of the post office. 

while i had the immediate packages all set to go, there were some that i was hoping to send on their way once i found the right size boxes.  that's what i tossed and tangled with outside of the post office...i had tissue paper and bubble wrap and new address stickers and markers....while the doggies looked over my shoulder....fitzy eager to grab another cuppa joe.





have no fear! i managed to get into the building just in time for the long 5 o'clock line!  the woman postal worker didn't even scold me for slipping in the door at the last minute....like she had done on friday...which further scarred me and caused some postal customer shame.  I managed to carry my slippery envelopes and tumbling boxes to the counter to ship out.

in just a few moments, i was skipping out the door.  another day at the office...the post office.


Sunday, May 9, 2010



happy mother's day!

lots of good wishes,
littlemarymixup

LOVE THAT PINK!


MOM'S COLOR THAT WE ALL KNOW AND LOVE...JUST LIKE MOM!  I LEARNED ABOUT THE IMPORTANCE OF LIPSTICK A AN EARLY AGE!  MOM USED TO SAY,"WELL, I JUST THOUGHT IF I HAD MY  LIPSTICK ON, IT WOULD BE NICER FOR DADDY TO SEE ME IN THE MORNING!"  AND THAT'S HOW IT WAS...FOREVER AND EVER...AMEN!

LOVE THAT PINK BY REVLON FOREVER AND EVER AMEN.

TIL THE END....

NOT KIDDING!

WELL, FIRST OF ALL, I WAS BORN INTO AN IRISH CATHOLIC FAMILY! MY MOM TOOK THAT SERIOUSLY. WEDDINGS, WAKES AND FUNERALS....THAT'S US!  WEDDINGS, WAKES AND FUNERALS WERE A HIGHLIGHT OF LIFE!  FAMILY GET TOGETHERS AND ALWAYS A CELEBRATION! 

WEDDINGS! CHECK!
WAKES!         CHECK!
FUNERALS!   CHECK!

SO, THAT'S WHY I WANT YOU TO KNOW THIS LITTLEMARYMIXUP STORY....I THINK YOU ALREADY KNOW HOW MUCH I MISS MY MOM AND WISH SHE WAS HERE THIS MORNING HAVING DONUTS AND COFFEE!

ACTUALLY, MOM WOULD LOVE THIS STORY AND I THINK THAT SHE'D BE PROUD OF ME....BECAUSE I LOVED HER SO MUCH THAT I DID THE RIGHT THING!  EVEN THOUGH IT WAS A TAD UNCOMFORTABLE TO TAKE CARE OF AND UNCONVENTIONAL FOR A WAKE...FOR MY OWN MOM!

IT WAS JUST 2 YEARS AGO.  ALTHOUGH IT WAS THE SADDEST OF TIMES, IT WAS THE HAPPIEST OF TIMES!  IT WAS AN IRISH WAKE...AND ALL OF OUR OLDEST FRIENDS AND FAMILY AND LOTS OF OTHER PEOPLE WHO LOVED MOM SO MUCH WERE THERE!  THE ROOM WAS FILLED WITH LOVE AND MEMORIES AND GREAT STORIES AND LAUGHS AND TEARS AND SWEETNESS.  I FELT LIKE MOM SHOULD HAVE BEEN THERE TOO!

WAIT, SHE WAS!  IN SPIRIT AND IN BODY...OPEN CASKET IRISH.  I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT CATHOLICS WERE SO INTO THAT.  I UNDERSTAND THAT IN THE OLD DAYS IN IRELAND, THEY HAD THE LOVED ONE IN THE LIVING ROOM AND WHEN THE DRINKS WERE POURING AND THE MEMORIES WERE ROARING, THERE WAS DANCING AND SINGING AND FUN.  IT GOT SO CRAZY THAT THEY HAD TO STAND THE BODY AGAINST THE WALL TO MAKE ROOM FOR THE DANCING!


IN THE LAST 10 YEARS OF MOM'S LIFE, WHEN BIFF ASKED MOM HOW SHE WAS, SHE WOULD SAY, "OH, I'M ALWAYS TROTTIN' UP TO FAIRCHILD'S THESE DAYS!"  THAT WAS TRUE.  FAIRCHILD'S WAS THE LOCAL FUNERAL HOME WHERE EVERYBODY WHO IS ANYBODY GOES....EVENTUALLY!  MOM AND HER FRIENDS WOULD COME BACK AFTER AN "EVENT" AND THEY'D SAY, "OH, SHE LOOKED BEAUTIFUL...THEY DID SUCH A GREAT JOB!  JUST LOVELY."


IT WAS MOM'S MOMENT!  I HATED THAT PART.  I APPROACHED THE OPEN CASKET WITH BIFF AND THE KIDS.... TO KNEEL DOWN AND SAY A PRAYER.  AS WE WERE KNEELING, IN THE MOST UNCOMFORTABLE MOMENT OF MY LIFE, AND WHILE I WAS BEGINNING TO TEAR UP, AT THAT MOMENT....I REALIZED SOMETHING THAT MOM WOULD NEVER HAVE ALLOWED...........HER LIPSTICK WAS THE WRONG COLOR!  AND TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE, HER INFAMOUS STYLE WAS LACKING.....HER ST. JOHN KNIT THAT SHE HAD SAVED FOR A BIG EVENT....THIS ONE....LOVELY AS THAT WAS......SHE HAD NO PEARLS AND JEWELS THAT WAS HER TRADEMARK!
SHE WOULD HAVE DIED!

THAT WAS WHEN MY SISTERLIKE FRIEND FROM COLLEGE ARRIVED.  SHE WAS THERE TO SAY A PRAYER....SHE WANTED ME TO BE THERE WITH HER....OF COURSE.

WHILE WE WERE UP "WITH MOM," PATSY AND I TALKED...OF COURSE, WE TALKED ABOUT HER STYLE...AND THE TROUBLE WITH HER ACCESSORIES AND EVEN WORSE!  HER LIPSTICK WAS MORE LIKE MOVIE QUEEN MAUVE RATHER THAN "LOVE THAT PINK!"

JUST THEN, MY FABULOUS SISTER IN LAW, CARY, MOTIONED TO ME....SHE HAD THE JEWELRY.  PATSY WENT OVER TO CARY AND GRABBED THE "INSTANT STYLE"......PATSY AND I WHISPERED AND MADE OUR PLAN....WE HAD TO.... WE RIGGED AND JIMMIED AND ADJUSTED AND PLACED HER JEWELRY AND HID ALL OF THE CLASPS.....WE HAD TO BE DISCREET....PEOPLE WERE THERE...TO "VISIT"......

WE GOT HYSTERICAL...WE HAD TEARS IN OUR EYES...APPROPRIATE MAYBE, BUT THE TEARS WEREN'T FOR SADNESS...WE HAD THAT KIND OF NERVOUS LAUGHTER THAT WE'VE HAD  IN CHURCH FOREVER.....SHAKING AND LAUGHING....LAUGHING AND SHAKING!   JUST LIKE MARY TYLER MOORE WHEN CHUCKLES THE CLOWN DIED!  TAKE A SECOND TO ENJOY THIS YOU TUBE VIDEO....MY MOM AND I LOVED IT!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EwC361O13gk



WE DID IT.  LIPSTICK WAS NOT SOMETHING I WOULD ATTEMPT....DEAD OR ALIVE.....I WAS ABLE TO SPEAK TO THE WOMAN IN CHARGE....WITHIN MINUTES, LOVE THAT PINK WAS ON! WE WERE READY FOR THE PARTY. LIPSTICK AND PEARLS.  CHECK.





ON THAT NOTE, THERE WE WERE...ONE LAST "PARTY" FOR MOM!  O.K. THAT'S AN EXAGGERATION!  IT WASN'T THAT FESTIVE.  JUST KIND OF FESTIVE....TALKING AND TELLING STORIES AND FAMILY AND FRIENDS.


MOM WAS DRESSED FOR HER PARTY!  BEST OF ALL, SHE HAD HER LIPSTICK ON...LOVE THAT PINK! SHE WENT OUT IN HER STYLE!  SHE HAD ON HER LIPSTICK....FOR DAD!!

STILL....TO THIS DAY.....PATSY AND CARY AND I HAVE OUR LITTLE SECRET....WE DID IT FOR MOM!  AND FOR ALL OF HER FRIENDS...WHO WOULD GO HOME WITH THEIR FRIENDS AND SAY, "SHE LOOKED LOVELY, DIDN'T SHE!"



AND OF COURSE, "FITZGERALD", "FITZ" WAS NAMED AFTER MOM.....BECAUSE WE ALL THOUGHT IT WOULD BE FUN....BESIDES FITZ WAS BEAUTIFUL......DAD ALWAYS CALLED MOM "FITZ"!  MOM GOT A KICK OUT OF IT!  IT'S IRONIC THAT FITZY THE DOG  ALWAYS GOES FOR MY LIPSTICK....REVLON, BURTS BEES, COVER GIRL, L'OREAL......LIKE MOM, SHE JUST LOVES HER LIPSTICK!

Saturday, May 8, 2010

prepnextdoor is a little blog that i've started.  it came to be while i was out shopping with grace and kaitlin.  the photos became a fun little game for me while the girls were on their own, gaining just a little independence....

i walk through stores all of the time and think about the possibilities everyone has....at any income...starting out....on a budget.....spending money on rent in new york city, boston or any city....just thinking...and how my mom would love this....we talked about our finds all of the time...we shopped together....we talked about shopping long distance....style was my mom's middle name.  if you have taste, you can shop anywhere....she always said....and i'd like to prove her right!  little hints and ideas ....thinking of mom...one of my very best shopping partners in crime!

whenever we showed enthusiasm over any item in a store, any store...whether in london or paris or t.j. maxx, we would gather a crowd of curious shoppers.  we learned to whisper and talk in code! 

i've just explained that to grace.  it's in the gene pool....we've gathered a crowd too.  i had to teach grace out code of shopping....mom would be so proud.  grace learned at the knee of the best!  i'm proud that i did too!  i want to share that with you!

i should probably acknowledge, i'm just blog crazy....oh! and e-bay too!  imagine that just 6 months ago....i wasn't even computer literate!!  i'm getting to do what i love.  thanks mom!








happy mother's day!  i hope that you are all pampered on your day!








 do something surprising and fun for your mother.  treat yourself to something special...even if it's a new flavor tea or coffee or magazine 



 






or a bubble bath 







 



or a nap or a walk with someone you love 

 







or a walk alone or time to sit and just daydream or make a list of all of the people you love or write a list of all of the people who have sprinkled their love on you throughout your life 









or  go to a museum live or online or buy yourself flowers 

 






or take time to blow bubbles 












or call someone you love and miss!












or rent a chick flick alone 


 



 



or celebrate your day  with family or all on your own! 



 







eat bon bons! or just hershey's!
















whatever you do, make this day your own to be thankful....for the family you have....your kids who call you mom....your mom who is near or faraway or an angel watching over you today!  




don't forget to be grateful for the women who you have in your life or you've had in your life who have made a difference....just by being there for you.

think of all of the friends who have shared their mom's and those women you've been blessed to have in your life.  



call someone who has made a difference or drop them a note or just send them good thoughts!

















this is a day to enjoy.  guilt free.  keep it simple. really.  no guilt.  no lists. no agendas. no tasks. no to do's. no shoulds. no woulds. no coulds. no might haves.



just enjoy your day.

you have to. you must. you will. you need to. you should. you better, darn it! hallmark says so!



happy mother's day....to all of the mother's and mother's in laws and aunts who love their nieces and nephews like their kids, to the grandmothers and great grandmothers and......everyone! 



madisonctwalkswithdogs is one figured out  a blog that i started way back when i started littlemarymixup!  it's all with daisy and fitz.  just some pictures of our days....walking....the dogs....i guess you had that figured out already! i thought i should share it with you.  daisy came to us from the breeder some time around mother's day....she was a true gift to us all!  her sweet disposition has made life with our first family dog a joy!  she makes us all laugh.  she is well behaved and nurtures us all.

fitgerald, fitzy, fitz and "leave it!!!!" is the dog we adopted at 1 year old.  daisy was just 5 years old back then!  she helped to look after our frisky little food monger who so desperately wanted food and needed love.

daisy helped fitzy's adjustment period.  she slept in the crate we got for fitzgerald.  since fitzy apparently had some issues related to her crate...she HATED it and practically had to be picked up to get into her new niche that we had so happily prepared for her.  The only thing that we could figure was that perhaps she had been crated as a jail rather than her home for comfort.

Daisy took Fitzy on as her job.  Daisy went into the crate, with the soft and comfortable fleece puffy bed, to encourage fitz.  it worked. kind of.  daisy got her in....but not for long.  the only way we could have this bundle of energy was to have our sweet daisy sleep in the crate with her.
it worked.  daisy was happy to see a crate again.  it took fitzy a little more getting used to....it was a little different getting a puppy who had issues of abandonment after living with 3 families. 

the first family was a family with 4 children under 6 seemed to be a poor fit.  i can understand the IDEA of getting a family dog...maybe that wasn't the best timing on their part! we think fitz got some of her eating habits....food moochy, food obsessed, food compulsive and a food monger....and that's just the beginning...that's an understatement!  it seems that she may not have been out of the crate much and it seems she wasn't used to being on a leash and it seems that she had never been to the beach or the woods.  wow, a golden retriever who was a beast for food was more typical, but a golden retriever afraid of water?  that defied everything we knew of goldens!

she needed our help.  she did love our kitties and  adapted to them well.  she was sweet and loving with them.  she ate biff's  dinner right off his plate one night....while he was sitting there!  she ran through our neighbors' houses to introduce herself in the neighborhood.  she used to get a ride home from a family a few blocks away...she enjoyed the company of their german shepherd, lucy.  she was welcomed with open arms and biscuits at the dolan's.  the good news is that they loved her....and the bad news is that they loved her!

the dolan's were the first place she'd go if she was off leash in the woods.  why not.  fitzgerald?  dolan? what's not to love?  they probably had great sing alongs, corned beef and potatoes.  now she's living on a leash. forever!

so, that's how that blog came to be.  i wanted to document some of the fun i have and the
great places they "take" me!  I post the photos sporadically.  they make me laugh and they get me out on the best and worst days ....and even in pelting rain or snow, it's always great.


just sayin'.




these are the moments...those sweet moments...when our kids were so little....downstairs in the kitchen on mother's day....with their daddy....and lots of shhhhhshhhhshhhshhing going on!  those were  some of the most precious tid bits of life as a mom. hearing the pitter patter of the kids' excitement planning the big mother's day surprise breakfast! those were the days....when it was sweet....and that was what mattered....just the surprise that they had begun in school and planned out with biff.  that will hold me forever!




we've come a long way since then....everyone has grown and now, everyone feels that hallmark pressure....from crying moms on hallmark and long distance phone commercials....and now, even diamond commercials!




mother's day is a very nice and thoughtful time to say to the mom's we love, "oh my gosh!  it's mother's day!  what should we do? or better yet, what do you want to do for mother's day?"


not too much pressure for the husband... who's already got a mother. not too much pressure for the kids.  not too much pressure for the mom's.  not too much pressure for the  mom's who have mom's and mother in laws!


sounds like a great day!  in theory.  last year, i spent the day cleaning the garage....and for most of it, i was delighted to have the time to be there and get some order.  when t.j. came to me at about 6 o'clock or so and said, "mom. we want to go to the restaurant on the water for dinner" .... it created somewhat of a stir at our house.  Hmmmm, i said.  gee, it seems a little late to get ready for that NOW! 



i think i said something along those lines.  i guess i was thinking that maybe if they had mentioned that just a wee bit earlier, i could have gotten myself together....somehow.

t.j. seemed heartbroken.  i felt guilty.  i think i said something like.....hmmmmmm.....maybe if anyone had mentioned it a tad earlier, i could have gone.  i might have also said,  look at me, i'm filthy dirty and have dust and dirt from head to toe....it doesn't seem like the  right timing to go out.  the restaurant closes at dark.  perhaps we could go another night, preferably when i've showered.


oh my!  what a pickle!  in moments, the whole family was mad at me!  wait, but i'm the mom!  it's mothers day, i wanted to shout at them all.  how can i go out like this?   should i be flattered that they really don't think i look that bad?

it was one of those moments that we dream of....our family thinks we are beautiful and lovely no matter what we look like!  

with or without a bra, not showered, knee deep in garage treasures that are covered with dust and grime, dirty , chipped fingernails, hair in our face, a touch ripened and some sweat to round things out.  our fine attire has paint and grime  the love from smelly wet dogs!  


when my teens are usually horrified by me on a good day, when i think i look my best....great hair day, manicured nails, make up or at least my lipstick, coordinated clothing, deodorant, shaved legs and armpits, brushed teeth, jewelry, accessories and no broccoli between my teeth, no lipstick on my teeth and my zipper zipped even though i had to hurry to a lacrosse game or a teacher conference or to pick up my child waiting for me after school has been out for 2.3 minutes but i am considered late.... 
nobody is ever quite so taken with my appearance at those times.  last year was just one of those moments.  one of those mother's day moments....pressure for everyone to do something...even if it was to drag me out kicking and screaming, filthy dirty and crying, darn it, they were going to make sure i had a darn GOOD mother's day!  and i wanted no part of that hallmark moment from hell.  


usually, those hellish moments come on the hallmark imposed holidays....valentines day is another one that creeps me out.  i'd rather have biff make me my coffee...at just the perfect temperature.....all year long than have flowers or a card or a dinner out on valentine's day.





just not my thing.  great for anyone who loves it, just give me a few hershey's kisses and a real kiss and i'm good to go.



mother's day is great!  i miss my mom.  but phew, the pressure i used to feel to do something outstanding for my mom!  she never cared.  it wasn't something that was a big deal to her....she was happy for the love year round and not necessarily on that day.  actually, i wish she had been around last mother's day to hear what i behaved like...or at least to hear the description of what on earth i looked like that day!




so, here i sit, alone.  biff has gone out with grace and t.j. to "get something"....please don't let them live in fear...of me.....the mom!  ooh! the pressure!  please let them know that the best mother's day gift of all would be to just have fun together....doing nothing....maybe walking at the beach, getting along with no bickering or complaining.  i'd like to be clean, maybe showered with my teeth brushed.  that's it.

the greatest gift...truly...is that i still love my husband and i treasure our children...they have been the greatest gift that i could ever have dreamed of.....our family...our dogs...our cats....our fish.....our sense of humor.  Now if we could all just have that sense of humor tomorrow, that will be the greatest mother's day of all!
the dogs have given their love to me for mother's day and every day.....that's it .....just love, sometimes some licks.....  that's just fine.  no pressure.  just love.  no questions asked. they didn't care what i looked like either.


Thursday, May 6, 2010

it was almost a month ago that we began our little flood in the basement.  funny, when we play that homeowner
game called "can you top this?" ....we always end up with someone saying, "wow! that stinks!"and how right they are....yes, we've won that game lately. 

really, was it a big deal in the scheme of life?  no.  especially now with the news of flooding in tennessee...now that's a flood.

we used to think a flood was when the kids put a toy boat in the toilet bowl and it floated away....whoosh!  like the tidy bowl man.....who, by the way lived in my hometown and was a lecture at church!  weird to have the tidy bowl man reading the gospel, huh?

but, i digress....again and again....and again.


that was when we lived in a condo.  we had the privledge of calling "julia's daddy"...eric.  he was the mr. fixit of the condo.  our little kids were enthralled with eric.  he could do anything...he was bigger than mr. rogers.  he had all of the answers.  he had all of the tools.  better yet, he had all of the patience!  our sweet little kids knew that when something went wrong that we just called "julia's daddy."  

oh how i wish he was with us now!  he got things done.  that was his job.  we are great at getting things done too.  except for one thing...and then another ....and then another!  no matter what project we start, another project pops up!



we work at getting things done...we just have a few interruptions.

dogs.

cats...not really.  unless daisy barks her "get the kitten" bark. that means business! as if she's saying, " come on!  i'm trying to get this kitten in for the night....let's get a move on!"



fish. they don't call for too much of an interruption.  unless they are floating and we have to take a break to have a memorial service and call in the neighbors to share our grief.


phone. life happens. the phone rings for pleasure calls. 

random kid calls.  

then we have the call
to hurry......like your hair's on fire calls to pick someone up after school!!!   or after a lacrosse practice...or a game  or cross country practice or a meet....

it goes something like this,"hi!  kanuupleezpikmeuppp?"
 
i say something to the effect of,"excuse me? could you repeat that please?" 

"isedkanupleezpikmeeeup?
andkannuuudrivesoandsoand what'shernameand pleezedtomeetyouhome?


yes.  i'll be right there...i'm painting the sistine chapel right now.  i'm almost finished. it will be a couple of minutes.


"waitizthatinyourtimeormytime?


and it's not even said in a sarcastic tone.  it's real.  it's a concern.  it's necessary information....as though there might be other appointments or a fight to the coast.

i wonder what that meant.  your time or my time?  that sounds like i'm some kind of mom who has abandoned my children on the side of the road...because i left them at school until after closing time and they have no food or drink or phone or text or friends or family.  hmmmmmm. have i done that EVER?


nope. nope. nope.  although i have had to take a few minutes to drive from cleveland, because i'm walking the dogs on a long walk or because i'm at the grocery store checking out.....or because i'm getting out of the shower because i've had dirt in my fingernails since 9:30 in the morning when i was potting plants.  otherwise, i'm ready to roll.  on call, on duty, on shift, on the clock....since january 1995.

i'm just that way.  i'm adaptable but since 1995, i have never been quick enough....never.  the child that was born on a january night in 1995 was crying when i went to her at the nursery in the hospital...to be with my baby again, after a long separation of about 7 minutes.  as i arrived in the nursery, a tad tired after 24 hours of waiting for my sweet little baby to be born, and i whined to the nurse, "oh, no she's crying!  I should have gotten here sooner, she needs me...i feel so guilty!"


that's when my darling nurse informed me that i shouldn't feel guilty because i'd have a lifetime of guilt to deal with as a mom."  casually and quietly she told me to get over that teeny tiny squeak that was emanating from my baby......it was a mere squeak and there were lots more cries to come and tantrums and body piercings and tattoos to follow.  


well, she nipped that in the bud...for about a minute...i took my teeny tiny baby with the sqeaking cry over to our rocking chair and gently whispered to her that i would never ever make her wait like that again.




i also told my itty bitty squeaky baby that by no means would i have any part of tattoos or body piercings.  i promised  her that i would always be there at her beckoned call.....forever. pretty much, i am....even if i let her think that i'm not.  she needs to know i'm always there for her.....and she also needs to know how to wait....how to plan her timing....how to check in....how to adapt....how to ask for help or aske for a ride.  she always has to be polite....or she'll walk home.

isn't that forever for a mom?  i think so.  sometimes it can feel like i'm a  tight leash.  sadly and happily, these days won't be forever....for either of our kids.  they'll be moving on.  they won't need us...they don't think that they need us right now....but, we're here.  always. always and forever and ever.
thankfully.


mother's day is around the corner. i'm still grateful that i got to be a mom......