Gifts

What a delight to be skiing in Vermont with our kids....dreams do come true. We had an early wake-up this morning. It was tricky business to roll our kids out of their toasty comforter covered nests.....but after our voices resonated in their dream filled peaceful and angelic sleeping selves, they were very motivated. Then we all hustled and bustled about, took good care of the animal farm, checked and double checked our packing profecionado potential with new gear, favorite accessories and technological devises times twelve, we scrambled out the door......after many stops and stalls and starts loving our dogs and cats.....we plopped our already exhausted bodies in the car.

We checked and double checked our outerwear, underwear and footwear for every possible potential mishap, slaphappy situation and serious sense of disarray...

We had checked times 4. We were ready to roll and living the boy scout motto,"Be Prepared."

Just after the car started, we put the car in gear and began rolling down the driveway, our half asleep daughter perked up and blurted out "So now can we talk about my birthday? It's after New Year's. You always say after New Year's!"

Yes. Soon. But could we get out of the driveway first? After all, her almost 16 year old burst of enthusiasm was heartwarming ....not much can stir enthusiasm that early in the morning.....or for our teens in general.....unless they're with beings other than family. Especially at the rev of the engine beginning any roadtrip!

Let us just have coffee first?

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Biff and I have lots to celebrate. Still laughing and loving and changing and creating our lives together after being together since 1992. Eighteen years ago we were engaged.

We have been very blessed. Surely, throughout our life together we have had many awesome days, many losses, many joys, many gifts, much faith, fabulous friends, family near and far, small struggles with great learning and more strength as a couple, tears of laughter and tears of joy, many great life experiences, continued sense of humor, insecurity, security, a million memories, lots of love, more love, loving others. I could go on and on and on and on......well, you know that!

 

MY FACEBOOK STATUS:

Celebrating tonight 18 years ago tonight Griff proposed to me on the ice at Rockefeller Center,"Will you do crazy things with me for the rest of our lives?" "OH YEAH!!!!"

  

FACEBOOK LIKES:

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    Trish
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    Karen
    Nina
    Janet
    Bea
    Ellen
    Jim
    Hilary
    Ellen
    Georgia
    Joanna
    Deidre
    Gina
    Michael
    Dee
    Susan
    Sheila
    
    
    

    SHEILA:

    that is soooooo sweetttttt~~~

    
    

    BETSY:

    YEY!!!

    
    

    
    

    WENDY:love it, congrats!!!
    

    
    

    LORI:

    LOVE! Congratulations! :-)
    

    
    

    NANCY:congratulations!

    
    

    
    

    MICHAEL:Way to go Biff! 

    
    
    

    
    

    CHRISTINE:

    Congratulations! Love that story. Happy New Year!
    

    
    

    DEE:

    I got goose bumps. I love you too! Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow.

    
    

    
    

    NANCY:

    Wonderful!!!! Happy engagement anniversary!

    JANET:

    Fantastic! Congratulations!
    

    
    

    
    

    
    

    XAVIER: 

    This calls for more crazy things!
    

    
    

    WAYNE:

    Good thing you said yes, otherwise that would have been a 2 minute delay of game penalty and an ejection for unsportsmanlike conduct.

    
    

    
    

    KATHY:

    Haha... that is wonderful! Congrats...

    ELLEN

    Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!
    

    
    

     

    ME:

    We still relive that night over and over. So many awesome moments...even better, we ARE still doing crazy things and then,we never could have dreamed of being so blessed!
    

    
    

    ME:
    

    Thank you kind friends. And Biff and I just realized the photo I posted of my daddy and brothers at Rockefeller Center...over his shoulder is exactly where Biff proposed.We always said dad must have put Biff on ice for me! We got chills. Thanks Dad!

    RICH:

    .........Happy engagement anniversary Liz......and happy happy new year!
    

     

    CARLA:
    

    That seems like a year ago

    JENNIFER:

    That's the best anniversary to remember! Keep doing the crazy for many more!

    PATTI:

    love it!!!
    

    LISA: 

    So Romantic!! Happy New Year!

    What love and support Biff and I have had throughout our lives together. We are blessed. We are grateful for the life we share. We are grateful. I am happy to share because we are so grateful. We love each other. We love our family. We love our  friends and our friends' children. They have supported us along the way. We have learned from them. We have learned what is best for us. We are still learning. We never want to take our lives together for granted. We never want to take our own family for granted. We have been blessed with beautiful children...literally gifts from God. We are so thankful....even when the children, now teens, have their own opinions and views and dreams and sometimes stubborn, even infuriating and then again, very funny and fun to be with. We are blessed....over and over and over....squared, cubed.....to infinity and beyond. 

GRATEFUL!Blackboard contributions from family and friends on Thanksgiving!

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A little issue with the parking karma and the snow today.....all for the sake of J.Crew men's shorta...NWT...new with tags! I have been taking it e-bay slow over the holiday week. Gotta get back in the saddle soon...I miss it!

Animal Farm

Not quite animal farm but certainly animal house! Oh wait...that came out the wrong way. We have very sweet animals living with us. This is T.J.'s Jinx....he is one cozy kitty. He loves to sleep in T.J.'s room...at his feet. Now he is all cozied up on our bed, at our feet. T.J. is not in his room. What a nice surprise to have Jinx sleep at our feet. I'm really not flattered. I know better. He just wants to stay warm on a cold winter night! That's o.k. with me. They are such a big part of our lives. We feed them. We pet them. We walk some. We let them in. We let them out. We stop to pet them. We play with them. We chat with them. We tell them how we feel. We sit side by side with them. We laugh at them. We share our home. They don't ask much of us. Wow, they make a difference in our lives. Everyday.

I AM NOT PERFECT. I AM NOT PERFECT. I AM NOT PERFECT. I AM NOT PERFECT. I AM NOT PREFECT.....funny that I typed that word incorrectly. It's true. That was a mistake. My own mistake. I was typing perfect and prefect showed up.

I have known this for quite some time. Others may be well aware of this fact. Certainly, the cat was out of the bag when Biff and I began dating....it was important for me to have him know me...the real me...with no secrets. Talk about scary! 

The good news is that he loved me because of my imperfections. He also loved me because of my honesty.Thankfully, he was just as honest....and he actually had some imperfections as well. Phew!

I know this may come as a surprise to you, but there was a time in my life that I believed it better to work at hiding my little idiosyncrasies and peccadilloes and imperfections and faults and blemishes.

While I shared self deprecating comments with many friends, co workers and acquaintances, I truly believed it was better to hide my flaws. Believe me, that was a full time job...with not many benefits.

Benefits....was there any benefit to donning the hat of perfection. Really? I believe it was once I had children that I no longer felt the need to try to be perfect. It came to me slowly. One imperfect moment at a time. Sure, I could have worked at presenting that perfect image for all of the other moms in playgroup, the other members of The Junior League of Boston, The Newcomers Club members, my college alumnae board and many more. Tempting to pose as perfect, to know it all, to be one of the perceived elite few who know that secret.

Thankfully my beautiful children taught me my greatest lesson of my life. It came to me via simple life moments:

We actually had tired/cranky/sick babies from time to time

Our babies spit up on our favorite clothing en route to a party

We had children with their own personalities who didn't behave like our puppets on display

Our children did not perform on demand

I had a baby at home with mom, Biff, Grace and the fire department

I had planned photo shoots with headstrong toddlers 

We had toddlers who slathered Desitin on other toddlers followed by baby powder which had the affect of being tarred and feathered.

While we had babies who loved church, they did cry.

We had babies who had tantrums, mostly in front of others.

Our babies blew rasberries in church.

Our children liked being barefoot in the snow!

We had children who didn't always warm up to everybody we liked

Sometimes, our children were shy

Our kids went through a phase of avoiding a hair brush.

That's only a snapshot of the things I hadn't been prepared for as a new mom. Until we had our own children, I only had the dream niece that was returned after a day or a weekend.

Surprise. At a certain point I realized I could keep those grosgrain bows tightly affixed in my preschooler's hair or I could let her wear her tiara and be happy. Grace allowed me to choose happy.

With T.J., it was his "wed wubber boots" that changed my outlook on life. He wanted to wear those boots to the pool and to the beach. T.J. helped me to see my soul more clearly....with his soles.

Grace loved wearing her beautiful Christmas dresses.....with her adorable tights and red high top sneakers! She also wore her floral knit Hanna Andersson tights under her bathing suit to the beach mid summer.Some of my greatest memories.

T.J. wore his Red Sox baseball cap everywhere...even to church. Thankfully, the monsignor liked the Red Sox and always worked that hat into his sermon on Sundays. 

Grace wore her purple sequined flapper dress to Montessori on her 5th birthday.

Since T.J. didn't love the barber and had such blonde fluffy curls, we had a friend approach us in church and say, " Look at that head, it's like a flock of gulls!" 

Thankfully. Thankfully and honestly. What freedom! What a gift to be freed from those who want to portray perfect. They bore us! I am so grateful that my sense of humor got me through some of my less than perfect moments. Biff and I are thrilled to be real. One of the greatest gifts in life...being real and being true to ourselves....and our family! Thankfully.

Quiet

Peace. Quiet. Comfort. All throughout the house. What a wonderful day. I don't remember feeling this peace in quite some time. Yes, I live peacefully. I appreciate having the quiet moments all of the time. We live in a peaceful home. Yet....right at the this minute....I feel as though I have nowhere to be, no pressure to get done, no time constraints, no one left unattended.

Sure, there is plenty to do and there are lots of places to go....but it is a delight not to have to do or be going. That doesn't happen too often no matter how balanced my life may be! Obligations. Discipline. Appointments. Responsibilies. Deadlines. These make life just a tad more busy.

Many times, during a quiet moment on those busy days, I enjoy the time but feel the clock ticking and have the feeling of something or someone waiting....for me.

Just some of the things that need attending:

laundry

dust bunnies

dog walk

blog

clean...never ending

dinner

exercise

e-bay follow up

post office

time for friends

Biff time

volunteer meetings

spiritual

house outside

Projects I want to do

That's the tip of the iceberg. Not any one thing is a chore. It's just lots of little things. Yes, I do keep lists. Yes, I misplace lists. Thankfully, I'm not alone. Biff called from the grocery store the other day to ask me to review the list....on the refrigerator!

So, excuse me if I end this now. I have to get back to my peace and quiet with no strings attached. I wish you the peace of Christmas.

Snow

The perfect storm.... big snowstorm, white everywhere, dinner by the roaring fire and after.....the very last gift we gave to Grace and T.J. last night for Christmas.. .TOY STORY 3.. we were too tired to see it last night. It's the greatest family movie and great to enjoy together.We are.

Snowing sideways

What fun to have dogs. They give us a resonance to brave the elements. We find new places to visit thanks to them! Thanks to Daisy and Fitzy, we meet new friends too.

Nor'easter the day after Christmas

Daisy dilly dallies after dancing in the snow...really she's working to get the snow removed from her pads. I'd love to buy her polarfleece booties.

Christmas Night Skiing with our family

Merry Christmas from Connecticut!

Who let the dogs out?

Fitzy frozen after frolicking in the snow.

The un-Kodak Christmas morning

After that, Biff and I began our gift wrap challenge.That was when it became apparent that our exhaustion was slowing us down. We could not remember what the remaining gifts were...or where they were. After some scrambling, We found some of the missing pieces to the puzzle of our brains.

While wrapping, we watched Christmas mass on television...then a movie. Not a Christmas movie...we had already overdone some of those. Mr. Holland's Opus...a favorite and a long one. Just before the movie wrapped up, when we knew we could not continue any longer, we abandoned the ending and trundled up the stairs....only to find Grace still awake.

After staying up til about 3:30 A.M., Biff and I had wrapped ourselves into a state of exhaustion. Grace and T.J. had been slow to go off to bed so that we could wrap in peace. Biff went off after midnight to collect the skis and snowboard, the Christmas gift that Grace and T.J. knew about....since they had to be there to help select and fit. BUT they did not know that the skishop had them ready with the fitted bindings. We knew it would be a challenge to keep that surprise from the moment Biff began backing down the driveway. Although he kept his lights off and rolled down in neutral, it was the gravel driveway that did him in.

First, the phone call from Grace. Next, the text from at.T.J. "Where are you going" said one and read the other. No secrets here.  Biff dodged the question. About a half hour later, Biff walked in the door struggling with all of the new gear after parking around the corner at the head of a neighbor's driveway, trudging through the woods to keep out of sight and earshot of our eager children, now 14 and almost 16years old. After settling the skis and snowboard and ski poles under the tree he bid adieu so that he could move the car to the end of our street, walked up our neighbors' driveway and pushed his way through more woodsy brambles to get home. And that was just after midnight. Then, the wrapping games began. The stocking stuffers and little gifts that were still, to our knowledge, a surprise.

It was 1:00 A.M. when Grace arrived downstairs to wrap her presents for Biff and T.J. A surprise to us that she was awake. Frustrated, I told her to stay away and wrap somewhere else and get upstairs to bed. OH, she was curious as to her dad's whereabouts. Although he was quiet in the family room, we wanted to keep the information to a minimum and discourage any further questioning.

With only a few hours sleep, we heard T.J. at our bedside. It was 6 A.M. He was ready to let the reindeer games begin. We pleaded with him to give us a bit more sleep. He complied. 45 minutes he was back. Then he attempted to wake Grace. She was most bothered due to severe lack of sleep.....which caused the "Silent Night" Christmas moment to quickly resemble"Shout from the Highest Mountain!" Christmas. Ahhhh..."Peace on Earth, Goodwill to Men"....hardly.

Finally, Biff and I began down the stairs with very little "Joy To The World" to be heard. We made coffee. We waited for the "all is calm, all is bright" din in our home. That's when we invited our sweet little angels down the stairs....with only one demand.... to start our Christmas over.  Then and only then could Christmas begin. It was wonderful. We all napped during the day. Life was good. We got our gear together, put on warm clothes and left to ski. We skied together. We all rode the double lifts which allowed us all a variety of one on one Christmas talk. Racing down the mountain we had no shouting from the highest. chairlift.....only calling to each other as we followed the trails.

We all laughed about ourselves on our short drive home. We were all apologetic for our  sleep deprived selves. It was a wonderful Christmas...we have been truly blessed   Biff and I are also thankful  for our sense of humor and ability to laugh at ourselves. We are especially thankful that we have shared that with our children....so that they may be relieved with humor too. We are thankful and we are all grateful for our family....the ones who know us best and love us anyway! Thankfully.

Christmas Ski Night in Connecticut....

Merry Christmas!

Christmas Eve Starbucks?

A moment. Just a moment.....Grace and T.J. suggested stopping at Starbucks. Well that was a first. After Christmas Eve mass! A teen adaptation of our traditional. Christmas Eve. Do you know what? It was a great idea. We sat and chatted...even a bit of bickering. ....Grace and T.J. After all, it's their job! And then. laughter and fun. And then, a drive through town and down by the beach to see the Christmas lights. We all talked and laughed and reminisced and talked some more....and drove home to have a nice dinner. Ahhhh Christmas!

You better watch out!

Yes! It was worth the wait. Hysterical photo shoot with Santa & Elves. Grace seems to be begging Santa or striking a deal!

Rejoice! For unto you a child is born...

Merry Christmas!