Showing posts with label tweens. Show all posts
Showing posts with label tweens. Show all posts

Thursday, September 16, 2010

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Our new kitty typed my title for today's blog post...Thomas, now known as Webster.........
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Why is this happening in our country?  Who are these people?  Why does everyone need to be on a t.v. show to prove that their kid or kiddy/kitty is the best and why do we have to watch them try to prove it?  On television!

We have lived side by side with some of the parents while standing on the sidelines of soccer fields or lacrosse fields, baseball diamonds, basketball courts and peeking in the window at ballet class, karate, cub scouts and brownies....... excuse me the kitten seems to have some input here!       < < < sta of ba>  >     ...who want us to know that their       < <(>>  >           their child or children have talent......above and beyond the other gazillion kids on out on those fields or wooden floors all across the country.   I feel for the kids....the pressure seems intense.


Being the best in school or sports is a dream for some kids who feel it from deep inside...that's big. Some kids seem to be poised to fulfill their parents unfulfilled dreams. We see the parents.  We see the kids.  Are they having fun?  Doesn't look like it after the game when one or both parents are doing post game breakdown.  Nervous breakdown. 

 
They say many kids are ridden with anxiety these days.  I wonder why? Parents seem to be talking about scholarships and exclusive universities....by middle school.  We hear that there is a new trend in college admissions....it's not about the grades and the multiple sports in which little kiddy excels, it's about passion and overall work and balance.

My mom always said, "Everything in moderation."....I think that applies to our kids as much as for our eating and drinking habits. what happened to that?


I keep thinking of Jon Benet Ramsay.  Oh, I've seen 2nd graders at ballet recitals wearing make up and getting bouquets bigger than baby Jon Benet.  It's just creepy.


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The best part of my day today was a "TEENS" meeting available, through our schools,
for parents of teens in the  town.  A few of us graduated from "TWEENS"...our kids are in high school now. 

It's nice to have a safe place for our style of parenting...the ones who just do their best to have their kids do their best and find their own way with our support.  It's tricky territory.  AND it's high school, a tumultuous time in any teens life.


It's great to be with parents who have  honesty, best intentions,  a sense of humor, 
passion for children trying to learn from our mistakes and the mistakes of others who have traveled this route before us.  There are meetings for "TEENS AND BEYOND"....I kid you not.  The moderator has grown children...she says there are new things to deal with even then! Thank goodness parents benefit from a learning curve just as our children do.

The letting go curve seems to be even more intense for  parenting 2010.  I wonder why. Are we all trying to hard? Where's the balance. How about our parents?  They were far from helicopters and velcro....and they loved us....and did their best too! It seems that however we choose to parent, we all end up getting our life lessons by growing right along with our kids.  Bringing up parents is a tough job, but somebody's got to do it......just sayin'.  


Parenthood, a new weekly show this season is so real life, we see ourselves or a facsimile of in every episode.



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I guess we're all just doing our best for the ones we love. 





Parenthood, the movie, isn't far from the truth! 



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This is a great article from the New York Times Sept.2010 
 
By the way, the kitty really tip toed across these keys....he keeps us laughing. 

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

my tulips.

 
another one of those days....love is everywhere...when you least expect it!  maybe because i could  actually see the ground!  snow is gone...for now.

 

it's like spring is here!  if only for another day!  snow may come tomorrow or the next day....that's o.k....we're used to it!  there may be a few more snowstorms, but today just gave me hope that spring is on it's way....every little bit counts..i even started peeking around in the woods, hoping that buds wouldn't be that far off.....well, that's dreaming!  we just had snow on saturday!

 

it was a great day for the sun roof...i like the sunroof an any sunny day....this was gorgeous.


it seemed like a perfect day to blow off my boots!  i've had boots and boots and boots......enough! http://www.hannaandersson.com


everywhere i went people seemed to be in happy moods!  everyone was talking about the weather...i guess everyone does that no matter what the weather....but, at least when the good weather is here, people stop moaning about it! we do live in new england after all!
 

i love going to my favorite farm.. 
ashlawn farm in old lyme.
i know it's my imagination, even the animals seemed happy!  i know, i live in a cartoon world.  i just love stopping in for coffee.  people are always so friendly....rain or snow or a spring like day.  i really wanted a nice hot....the perfect temperature coffee.  how happy was i when i saw my little reminder....the heart shape rocks always remind me that love is everywhere....i know it's so corny....but, it doesn't take much for me!



at ashlawn farm, they roast their own coffee...and ship it from all over the world...

the most delightful thing about the farm is that sense of community and old general store meeting place feeling.  it's just lovely and brightens my day...always smiling faces...lots of people stopping in..having a little conversation and going on their way.  some linger at the little tables indoors and outdoors....

 

out on the deck today, there were a few people sitting having their coffee in the sun...with thei golden retriever named fargas.... fargas seems to have some of fitzy's food issues.  now, here's the part where you'll confirm that i'm a bit kooky.....i was feeling guilty that i didn't have daisy with me!  she loves the farm!  actually, she loves anywhere with me...maybe with anyone...but i'll just enjoy thinking it's me!



  
it's just nice to stop in a place where i feel like life slows down...for just a little while....


sometimes, there's so much nice conversation going on, that by the time i get the milk in my coffee....it's not steaming hot anymore...

i love all of the work they do.  it's great to buy local.  ashlawn farm has a great farmers market in the spring, summer and fall.  soon.........



i just love it here....a mom and her little boy were there....after the mom got her coffee, she promised to take hime out back to look at all of the tractors!  i had one of those sweet moments....remembering how many hundreds of tractors we stopped to look at and over and around...and under...maybe sat on the seat, pretended to steer it....and just loved it all!  i'm so grateful for those days!




this was a painting hanging at the farm.  so many times that i stop by, there are local artists out painting in the fields...nearby, is the florence griswold museum...one of my favorite places to go as a family.....and do a little painting...en plein air....we always have the greatest times there...even though the kids are getting older, they may resist  but when we get into being there....they start having some fun too.
alot of artists came here at the turn of the century....florence griswold opened her home to painters...so she could preserve her home that was left to her by her family....she was a very strong women to keep it going ...and the artists came because the lighting was so similar to the light in france...the impressionists....artists could come to live in this summer artist colony...just like william merritt chase out in the hamptons across the long island sound...they are on dispaly at the parrish art museum in southampton.

i love the impressionist art...i always have since i was very young!  it's so nice to have lived out in the hamptons on long islands east end....with the beautiful light that they enjoyed while painting.  and now, here we are living in the same beautiful area where so many impressionists came to study....i can appreciate them...i can't paint like them.  i do love it here!
 

after the farm i had to go to one of the "tweens" meetings that i go to in our town....they are so enjoyable...and productive and educational and help our awareness and it's great to have that communication with other moms who are just trying to do their best....trying to do it better....learning....talking...listening...thinking.....i get so much out of the meetings.  some of our kids make fun of us...saying, things like...."mom...just because you heard that stuff at your tween meeting doesn't mean that goes on here!"  we all laugh because we're just trying to stay aware...to help protect our own kids in this enormous world we're in....with no text book to   guide us!



and then...it's "happy hair" for me!! i need "happy hair" no matter what at this time of year.....seasonal affective disorder....some people have it...maybe even i do!  i have seasonal hair disorder....i crave happy highlights to get through this last lap of winter!  and more tulips!


happy almost spring! 
it really is coming!
  i can tell by my tights!
  and my hair! 
and my sunroof!
and my tulips!